It should be fair to assume most of us have been involved in that discussion about the sanctity of virginity and the reservation of sexual affairs after marriage only. Men have always had it easy in this regard. A man only has to declare himself a virgin and the discussion ends on that note. For women, it’s a different story entirely. The presence of the hymen has been used as irrefutable evidence of virginity. However, we now know that it isn’t exactly all black or white as it was previously thought to be. Let’s discuss the many shades of grey.
The hymen is a thin piece of tissue that surrounds the opening of the vagina. Everyone has a heart, brain, and lungs. Virtually all women have a vagina. Not all women are born with a hymen. These statements rank very close in terms of factuality. A woman may very well be without a hymen at birth! This isn’t surprising. To put it mildly, the hymen serves no particular function in the human body. To put it bluntly, it’s useless. This is the first truth.
For women with a hymen, how aware are they about it? Well, not very much as it seems. It’s very possible that a woman never feels her hymen with her fingers no matter how much she tries. It’s even less likely she sees it with her eyes because the tissue is essentially the same color as the vagina. A partner will also not feel it with their fingers and penis.
The hymen wears thin over time. No human part remains exactly the same after a number of years. With age, the hymen stretches thin. If one has used an insertable menstrual product, the hymen is probably already gone. A hymen too tight rather signifies a medical condition -imperforate hymen. This requires surgical treatment. Have you ever wondered how women menstruate as virgins if they had a tissue covering the vagina? The blood flows through, doesn’t it?
For women with an intact hymen, how does it feel when it ‘breaks’? Well, the hymen can very well be penetrated without any notice. Some women bleed. Many don’t. Some women experience pain. Some don’t. There’s no ‘one-size-fits-all ‘ approach here. All virgins basically won’t have intact hymens. This is because a number of other things can break the hymen such as horseback riding, riding bicycles, climbing trees or jungle gyms, gymnastics, dancing. There’s also using insertable menstrual products such as tampons and a number of medical procedures.
Does an unbroken hymen signify virginity? Maybe, maybe not. It really isn’t that simple.